How to Last Longer in Bed – The Ultimate Guide

Simple, Effective Tools and Techniques to Help You Last Longer in Bed

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Do you want to last longer in bed? Well, I’m here to tell you it’s not as hard as you think! There are a few true and tested ways to help you last longer. I’ve personally tested countless products, exercises and the like in order to increase my stamina during intercourse.

A quick word of advice – this guide has not been evaluated to cure diagnosed forms of premature ejaculation. If you believe you have a serious case of premature ejaculation, please see your doctor for expert advice.

Also, if you are considering taking prescription pills to help you last longer in bed please again ask your doctor if they are safe for you to take, as many prescribed sexual heath pills may cause serious side effects.

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Kegel Exercises

Start and Stop Method

Prescribed Medications

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How to last longer in bed - Ultimate Guide

Steps To Help Men Last Longer In Bed

Let’s take a look at some quick and easy ways to make your sex experience better.

Sexual enhancers are a sure-fire and quickest way to last longer in bed. I know that may sound like an oxymoron, however, over the years I’ve tried dozens of techniques and products. I’ve combed through the junk and personally have a few favorites that I use on a regular basis.

Sexual enhancers for lasting longer in bed range from topical delay sprays (my favorite), supplements, lubricants, flavored condoms to penis sleeves. Here’s a list of my favorite enhancers that works best in my opinion.

1. Use A Delay Spray For Quickest Results

Promescent is an excellent choice for lasting longer in bed. It’s a topical spray that helps delay ejaculation for men in all capacities. It was incredibly easy to use and gives instant results. In 2013 I was on my journey to find tricks to last longer in bed. That’s when I discovered Promescent. During my first few uses, I really had to dial in the dosage that worked for me. Once I found that special number of sprays I was off to the races. It felt like nothing could stop me – and I must say, my wife was quite pleased.

Promescent Male Delay Spray
Climax control sprays can neutralize the most sensitive parts of the male genitalia so he can last longer stress free

I read a bit of information on the company and found that the doctor who created Promescent specialized in premature ejaculation. He wanted to perfect a strategy for men to last longer in bed. Promescent claims to have a unique formula that is different than known brands like Stud 100 or KY Duration. Dr. Ronald Gilbert focused on targeting the sensitive nerves that cause uncontrolled ejaculation. Unlike other brands who focused on numbing the surrounding area.

When using Promescent I never feel like I lose all sensation like I’ve experienced in the past with other brands. Finally, I can have more control of ejaculation and my timing. Also, a big sales point for me is that it doesn’t transfer (and my wife attests) to the female partner. I followed the directions closely the first time, waiting about 8-10 minutes and my wife has never complained about a loss of sensation for her.

2. Try Desensitized or Thick Condoms

Thick Delay Condoms to Help Men Last Longer in Bed
Extra Strength condoms and Desensitizing condoms can decrease sensitive sensation that leads up to climax

Okay – so this kind of defeats the whole purpose of finding ways to last longer in bed, but it did somewhat work as expected. The only downside is that I would be left ‘hanging’ afterward with really no sensation. It is quite pleasing to make sure that my wife is satisfied completely. Thicker condoms did allow me to last a tad bit longer but I still could not control my ejaculation fully.

Using a delay condom works but at the expense of losing personal sensation as long after I finished, I was very numb and limp. Some delay condoms include Trojan Extended Pleasure. One of the few extra-strength condoms include LifeStyles Extra Strength

3. Kegel Exercises For Male Stamina In Bed

Kegels are a viable option for those looking to last longer in bed but do not want to explore sexual enhancers or other options. Kegels are quite easy to perform, however, do take time to master. I went on a kegel kick a few years back. After a few months of 10-15 minutes per day of exercising my pelvic floor muscle saw results.

From my experience, Kegels helped me last about 30-40% longer during intercourse. The thing that I found difficult was holding my climax back. It was a mixture of using Kegels and using the start and stop method to achieve longer times to climax. I’ve heard about some really positive success stories from people practicing Kegels. It just wasn’t viable for me as a long-term option. Not to mention – it was a bit frustrating not seeing results for quite some time.

As a long-term solution, I think exercising your pelvic floor muscle will be helpful in a limited capacity. Kegels are not an end all be all type of exercise. However, there is just too much data and information out there showing kegel exercises help you last longer during sex. Furthermore, if you would like to learn more about how to do kegel exercises, there are tons of great resources out there.

4. Start-Stop Method

start stop method to control ejaculation
When you time your self during the start and stop method, you’ll see how much longer you last over time

Even if you’ve never heard of this method I am sure at one point in time you have used this technique to try and last longer during intercourse. The start-stop method is helpful but can be annoying to your partner. Stopping while things are heating up can kill the mood for her, but you’ll be able to keep going. It’s a catch 22 solution. Every time you stop, you take a step backward from the finish line.

If you get clever you can say “let’s switch positions” or even better yet use your fingers or tongue in between while you cool down. I’ve used this countless times and I can say it works every time for obvious reasons. When you feel that you are getting close to climax take a 30-second to 1-minute break from all penis stimulation.

This time will help you reboot and after the time has passed you’ll be okay to engage in penetration again. From experience when after the 1st time you get close to climax and stop. The second time of getting close to climax, it happens a lot quicker.

5. Squeeze Technique

This technique is popular and is recommended by some urologist as far as a non-topical or medicative solution. To properly perform the squeeze technique, you’ll need to “get busy” and reach the “point of no return”. Which basically means start masturbating or begin intercourse until you reach climax.

Now, this part is hard for most because the urge to ejaculate may be so intense and endorphins are running rapidly that you just say screw it! However, if you commit.. you’ll need to STOP all activity and squeeze the shaft near the head of the penis. You do this with your index and thumb until the urge subsides. This may take some practice just like anything else.

6. Prescribed Medications

priligy dapoxetine medication

This should be a last resort for your search to last longer in bed. Many doctors say you should try and last longer without pills. They suggest only get a prescription for such pills if absolutely needed. These are called SSRI’s and are considered anti-depressants. This has been a well-known fix to beat premature ejaculation for about 15-20 years. It was first noticed as a side effect while doing clinical trials on the original medications.

Taking anti-depressants for premature ejaculation is not the same as taking Viagra for ED. The side effects of anti-depressant can cause a host of side effect ranging from:

• Increased appetite, weight gain
• Fatigue, drowsiness
• Insomnia
• Dry Mouth
• Blurred Vision
• Constipation
• Dizziness
• Agitation, restlessness, anxiety

I’ve experimented with a few of these drugs for science sake and can say they do work. It was recommended to take the anti-depressant for at least 1-week prior to gauging results. This is because the active ingredient needs time to build in my system. During that time I was not allowed to drink any alcohol, experienced insatiable dry mouth, constipation, and drowsiness from time to time. When all was said and done it was not worth the experience.

I definitely lasted longer and it did help improve my sexual performance. I’m not sure I’d do it again but only when they really refine the drug and make the negative side effects close to nonexistent. Some men take these on a regular basis and there have been clinical studies that do indeed prove its effectiveness in the bedroom.

Please consult with your physician before purchasing any online or offline supplements.

7. Change Sex Positions

sex positions to help men last longer in bed

Last but not least, we have the options of alternating sex positions. This could be the easiest and most cost-effective route to take. I’ve found lists of dozens of different sex positions you can try. These actually get interesting as long as both parties are open to experimenting.

Now, of course, any sexually active adult should be familiar with the most popular positions such as missionary, doggy-style, the cowgirl, and spooning. Nonetheless, there are a plethora of positions you may not have been aware of. Changing sex positions can be easy if you know how to perform them.

How Changing Sex Positions Can Help You Last Longer

Some sex movements require more energy resulting in stamina depletion. Other movements actually conserve energy resulting in longer-lasting enjoyable sex.

One of me and my wife’s favorite position is called the “cradle”. It’s where she is on top and instead of me lying flat on my back, I’m in a sit-up position. This allows users to hug and caress one another and also kiss each other’s neck for a more intimate experience. It also reduces the amount of thrust power I have to use during penetration, this is key!

The less pelvic thrust required actually helps prolong your ejaculation. This is due to the male being more deeply penetrative causing a less intense penile sensation. Your partner will love it too!

8. Free Mobile Apps That Help With PE

PEA App - Training to Stop Premature Ejaculation

I recently found this awesome FREE app that helps you practice this! It’s called the PEA App. PEA made a name for itself in the last few years and reached the top-rated apps for premature ejaculation. There was a study done on the effectiveness of such apps and PEA was mentioned by The Journal of Sexual Medicine. See A Novel App for Premature Ejaculation. I wrote my own small blog about it as well. You can read more about that here: Premature Ejaculation Trainer. You can use it on your phone or right on your computer while you’re enjoying your favorite Netflix and chill scene. Get the PEA App for Google Chrome.

Having Longer Lasting Sex in Bed – In Closing

In brief, there are many ways to last longer in bed and it’s best if you hunt for the one that works best for you. It could be a mixture of 2 or more of these techniques or sexual enhancers. It all comes down to personal preference. By the way, I’ve found that delay sprays do the job quite well with little side effects. Therefore, I recommend anyone looking to last longer in bed to try a delay spray. Ultimately, if you look long and hard enough you will find a solution. It could be as simple as using the start and stop method to a higher degree. In short, just relax, practice and explore. As a result, you’ll find a technique that will help you last longer in bed. Additionally, you’ll find sex to be much more enjoyable as well.

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Kegel Exercises for Men To Last Longer in Bed

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My name is Peter, I’m 32 years old. I struggle with PE. I have created this website so I can post updates on my quest finding a cure to my premature ejaculation problem. Click on About Me on the top toolbar to find out more about me :)

  1. Awesome article. I, for one, can always use a few tips lol also I want to stress how important it is to listen to the infectious disease specialists and make sure that we are making sure we are doing the right thing for the rest of the country and world. And in my opinion, genital health is super important. Get yourself a penis health creme to help moisturize and hydrate below the belt during these trying times. Good luck ya’ll.

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