I found this piece from somewhere what explains what premature ejaculation is…
Whats is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature Ejaculation, just the very word strikes fear in most men. What many men do not realise is that it is surprisingly common.
Premature Ejaculation (PE) is when a man ejaculates too early on during sex. It is often just as the man penetrates the vagina or seconds after. This can cause a lot of embarrassment and frustration as in some cases, sex can be nearly impossible. So much so, that many men prefer to avoid sex altogether causing anger and frustration between partners which ultimately has negative effects on a relationship.
What Causes PE?
There are many factors for PE; the good news is many of the underlying causes for Premature Ejaculation are psychological.
Stress – At work, home or otherwise can have an impact on your sex life.
Performance Anxiety – This is especially common with someone new, the pressure to perform and satisfy can be so overwhelming that nerves take over and this interferes with performance.
Masturbating too often – While not a bad thing, if done excessively, the body soon ends up climaxing quickly in habit.
Confidence issues and low self-esteem– Insecurity with body image, penis size or other reasons can affect confidence and sexual performance.
Physical reasons may include hormonal imbalances (though this is not common) inexperience and even abstinence, where you have gone a long time without sexual activity.
What Can Be Done?
Premature Ejaculation can be treated very successfully once the cause is established. Severe cases of PE that do not respond to psychological and self-help techniques or natural therapies can be treated by medication prescribed by a doctor.
For the occasional or mild PE some things you can try to prevent or lessen the chances of PE include:
- Natural based supplements, especially those containing Zinc and L-Arginine, these are scientifically proven to help to increase blood flow and strengthen and promote the general health of the penis resulting in longer-lasting erections.
- Local anaesthetic gel. Some men like to apply this to the shaft of the penis just before intercourse to desensitize to prevent PE, however, if you are sensitive or allergic to the ingredients it can cause irritation, stinging and redness and can make sex less pleasurable for your partner. Special condoms containing anaesthetic, usually Benzocaine can also be used.
- The Stop-Start technique. This is where the man masturbates to the point of climax and then stops. It should be repeated three times, allowing himself to ejaculate on the fourth time. If practiced regularly this can help to control ejaculation.
Some couples benefit from sexual therapy. Visiting a sex therapist can help you to learn new ways to control PE, build your confidence and get back on the road to start enjoying sex again.
Whatever method of treatment you choose; rest assured that Premature Ejaculation is treatable and it does not have to get in the way of an enjoyable sex life.