Dealing with premature ejaculation can be embarrassing and frustrating for both partners, but there is no reason to shy away from your problems. In fact, premature ejaculation is the most common sexual dysfunction in men and doctors have reported that 20-30% of men deal with it at some point in their lives. But knowing you’re not alone doesn’t make the problem go away.
You first step to overcoming or dealing with premature ejaculation is to figure out why it is happening. Is it physiological or biological? Physiological would be linked to anxiety. Are you so worried that you’re going to PE that you do? Biological reasons could include hormone or thyroid issues, diabetes, nerve damage, or inflammation or infection of the reproductive organs. If you’ve been dealing with this for a long time, your best bet is to head to the doctor, as it could be linked to something bigger. A doctor can help you figure out which direction you need to go in.
If you’re interested in trying some at home remedies, try some of the following:
Work on training your PC muscles. PC stands for pubococcygeus muscles and they are the muscles that control semen, urine, and the firmness of your penis. Keeping your PC muscles strong is as important as keeping your arm muscles strong. Whipping them into shape can help you last longer and stay firmer. The easiest way to target your PC muscles is to stop your urine mid stream. The muscle that holds your pee back is your PC muscle. To work them out, contract the muscles back and forth. You can find instructions on reps/sets online. It’s easy to integrate your butt or ab muscles into this exercise, so make sure you keep them relaxed.
Try using climax control condoms or desensitizing spray. Next time you’re about to go at it, slip on a climax control condom instead. These condoms contain 5% Benzocaine which will help numb the head of your penis. Make sure you put this on the right way though, otherwise you’ll numb your partner. You can also look into desensitizing sprays or creams like the ones sold at Adam & Eve. These also contain Benzocaine and will help you stay harder longer. Simply apply some to the head of your penis and the shaft and wait a few minutes for it to take effect. For best results, use the spray with a condom so that you don’t desensitize your partner.
Prep for your night by masturbating beforehand. If you know that you’re going to get busy, it’s best to knock out the first orgasm. This way it should take longer for you to reach your peak. Either do it minutes or hours before depending on how long it takes you to recharge.
Spend more time naked. If you and your partner live together or you spend a lot of time together at your houses, try sitting around and doing chores naked. This will help you get used to her body and keep you from getting so easily excited.
Remember to stay positive. It can be very frustrating, but the more mad and anxious you get about premature ejaculation the worse it’s going to be. Be open with your partner and work together on a solution.